Another poster sparked this question that I had forgotten about.
I went to a wedding where they did the "kidnapping" the bride and demanding a certain amount of ransom before she was released. Anyway, when the bestman ran in the reception all dramatic and told us this I was pretty much offended and refused to pay. So were some other people. He thought we were kidding and two hours later a super ticked off bride came through the door demanding to know why we had refused to pay her "ransom".
I know historically back in Braveheart times this was actually a concern but is it really a tradition now to recreate that in some cultures like a money dance? In my mind it was just the bride and groom trying to be cute and milk us for more money…did I miss something?
They are stupid. You are correct!
February 14th, 2010 at 5:03 am
They are stupid. You are correct!
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February 14th, 2010 at 5:44 am
They are idiots. They should be happy you even attended. Don’t give people like that any money.
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February 14th, 2010 at 6:06 am
Ive been to a couple of weddings were they do that
It is all in good fun (We did get our money back)
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February 14th, 2010 at 6:14 am
i have never heard of that tradition before and i would not think it’s funny. nor do i like the money dance either. i already bought them a gift, what more do they want?! we did not have a money dance and i am glad. i think that was not a good idea for a wedding "joke"
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February 14th, 2010 at 6:21 am
i think its reallly tacky. atleast the dollar dance involves everyone and gets people up and laughing (and its only a $). However this is just rediculous and Id rather spend time with my friends family and NEW HUSBAND instead of sitting by myself hoping my guests are going to give into our moneymaking scheme
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February 14th, 2010 at 6:46 am
I’ve never heard of that, but it sounds ridiculous to me, and I definately wouldn’t pay. If the brides ticked off that her friends/family— who already bought her wedding gifts and came to her wedding— didn’t feel the need to give her MORE money, then she’s just too damn greedy.
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February 14th, 2010 at 7:24 am
I wouldn’t have paid either! Attending a wedding generally means buying something to wear, a gift for the bridal shower. a money card at the reception, and occasionally a cash bar. There’s no need to pull a stupid stunt like that to milk even MORE money from the guests. I can’t believe that selfish bride had the balls to ask why you didn’t pay!!! I’m appalled!
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February 14th, 2010 at 7:51 am
Wow, that is the dumbest thing I ever heard and in extremely bad taste. Where do these people get these ideas??? I agree with you, it is a ploy to get more money out of everyone and they should be ashamed for such a tactic.
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February 14th, 2010 at 8:01 am
The only way I’d see this as being amusing or fun is if it was on that awful "Wedding Crashers" TV show. Otherwise it’s in terrible taste.
Good for you for not paying her "ransom". I hope she learned her lesson.
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February 14th, 2010 at 8:36 am
I agree anything having to do with "games" involving money at a wedding is tacky…and then for the bride to EXPECT everyone to pay up…that’s even worse…
that is bridezilla on steriods….
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February 14th, 2010 at 9:24 am
I would have refused to may as well.
I cant stand the dollar dance, wishing well and other monetary traditions. I think they are dated and it makes the couple look greedy. I choose not to participate in these activities at weddings.
I think this is by far the worst I’ve heard of though. It’s not just "well you can pay to dance with me if you want". It’s "Pay money, or else!" How ridiculous. I’ve already bought you a gift, bought an outfit to wear to your wedding, paid a babysitter, gas is so expensive now and/or traveled by plane to get here and you want me to pay your "ransom"? Pul-lease.
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February 14th, 2010 at 10:01 am
That is the rudest thing I’ve ever heard in my life. I would be offended too, I’m glad thay you and other apalled guests didn’t pay.
I can;t belive the nerve of the bride to confront the ones that didn’t shell out the cash. Unbelievable.
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February 14th, 2010 at 10:47 am
well maybe they did want to put a new spin on the thing. instead of maybe doing the dollar dance they decided to do this instead. they wanted to make their wedding more fun and memorable. i did with mine. instead of throwing the bouquet and getting girls to want to catch it i did the dating game. my moh didn’t know who i picked and she asked each person 2 questions i had written down. best man had to do the same thing. 2 years later i still have people talking about that.
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February 14th, 2010 at 11:13 am
I’m speechless. I can’t even imagine the audacity of the bride/groom for pulling that stunt. *blink* *blink*
No you didn’t miss anything. They did.
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February 14th, 2010 at 11:28 am
I suggest hiring real "bride nappers" and seeing if anyone still pays the ransom after this ridiculous display of greed. What’s next, a cover charge for the baby shower.
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February 14th, 2010 at 12:02 pm
That’s really sad that the bride was a bitch about this. I know that the money is supposed to go towards the honeymoon and what not. I don’t think the $ dance is so bad, because people have the option of doing it or not, and it’s only a buck. At my husbands first wedding some friends "kidnapped" the bride and refused to let her go until people paid a certain amount of money. The bride didn’t know this was going to happen and neither did my husband (the then groom). They were both pissed about it, but the friends all thought it was fun and refused to let the bride go. When my husband talks about it now, you can tell that it kind of ruined their wedding reception for them. Personally, I think it’s a stupid idea. We didn’t do the $ dance at our wedding, and if anyone had tried to "kidnap" me I would have had a tizzy fit. It’s just plain rude.
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February 14th, 2010 at 12:15 pm
I think it’s ridiculously tacky. Honestly, by the time all of the guests get there, they have already bought a gift…to expect them to pay cash just to be able to party with the bride is inconsiderate, rude and tasteless.
I would have been sitting right next to you, refusing to pay. I would probably have said that I didn’t bring any cash, considering I wasn’t expecting to have to pay an admission fee.
Looks like she broke away from her kidnappers, eh?
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February 14th, 2010 at 12:24 pm
I’ve never even heard of that!! That’s weird and kinda dramatic!! I think they were being silly but they shouldn’t be MAD if some people chose not to participate. I mean, as a bridesmaid,you have to spend lots of money already so I would not have chipped in either!!!
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February 14th, 2010 at 12:56 pm
Sounds as crass as the dollar dan$e.
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February 14th, 2010 at 1:28 pm
Wow. Pathetic. I would have left a that point honestly. I can’t believe that she was gone for 2 hours. Being THAT money hungry that you’ll withdrawal yourself from your family & friends at your own wedding reception. Good for you for not paying. That’s just beyond rude. I’ve never heard of this happening, thankfully.
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February 14th, 2010 at 1:40 pm
I think it’s not a bad idea…just executed poorly. And I think it branches off a Russian tradition…where the groom has to do all sorts of activities and answer questions before the bridal party will let him see his bride, if he answers wrong he has to pay money. Personally I wouldn’t pay either and it’s wrong of the bride to be mad because a few people didn’t pay up. But all in all it doesn’t seem like a horrible thing.
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February 14th, 2010 at 2:21 pm
they should at least warn you on the invite that something like this will happen..
i wouldn’t turn up to a wedding with a purse full of cash.. thats stupid.. you already buy them a present you shouldn’t have to give her money for her stupid game
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